Growing up, I really liked the idea of the Tooth Fairy (see I even capitalize her name.. and yes she’s a lady).
I don’t really know why to be honest, I wasn’t super into pretending when it came to toys like dolls or even with characters like Santa Claus (sorry if I spoiled it for ya), it just didn’t really appeal to me. I mean I definitely had an imagination, that’s for sure. My train of thought has always moved a million miles per hour leading me to say some seemingly random and unrelated things, that really have a long string of connection in my brain… Stories were always more my style, and noticing what the people around me were up to.
But for some reason, the Tooth Fairy stuck with me. I had a lot of hope that she would come, and I really thought she was real. I think it’s because one time I lost a tooth and then the power went out so I thought it was her… magic tiny fairies do that right?!?
Eventually I figured out that the Tooth Fairy had a lot in common with Santa Claus, and it didn’t crush me.
The reason I bring this up is because I’ve been thinking quite a bit about expectations.
In high-school I had a couple really close friends who were always by my side. We were kind of a power trio and I can confidently say that we will be in touch for the rest of our times on this little planet.
Anyway, I have a very vivid memory of trying to explain to them how I felt about expectations.. kinda went like this:
Mad: “I don’t know, I guess I kinda like to keep my expectations pretty low so that I don’t get disappointed.. I’d rather start low and be surprised you know what I mean?”
Friends: “Well I mean I get it, but isn’t that kind of depressing? Seems kind of like a sad mentality to just expect the worst of people..”
These words were said with much love, and I really started to think about them. I haven’t stopped thinking about them. I also haven’t changed.
It’s odd, because I totally saw then and see now, the reason they said what they did.. it could be kind of sad to just project this mindset of expected failure onto people and situations….
But I’ve come to a conclusion.. and for me, I think my friends were wrong. I know myself, and I know that if I let people into my bubble of trust too soon, it’s a recipe for a lot of sad Mad.
So I like to guard my heart a little bit, and I think that’s okay.
BUT!!! Keeping your expectations low doesn’t mean you can’t have hope or faith in things that may even seem impossible. (like the Tooth Fairy)
Being sensitive is part of being an authentic human, and knowing how to care for that sensitivity is an important part of being your best self… but at the same time everyone needs a little Tooth Fairy dust in their life. 😉
Don’t lose hope and don’t lose heart people! Love yourself and others! Life’s been good for me, back at USC grinding away. Things are busy but very pleasant. 🙂
P.s. I love these two friends more than life- you know who you are
Image 1: Dean Mitcham
Image 2: John Butler